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Recognizing Your Inner Fears

Recognizing your inner fears is all about coming face to face with what is holding you back from accomplishing your goals and dreams. Usually your inner voice is your guide. The one that has the self doubts and keeps saying you might fail. It might also question your ability to succeed. Every woman has this inner voice, and many times you don't even realize it is acting as a barrier, limiting you in what you choose to do and limiting you in how you spend your time. When you are recognizing your inner fears you are recognizing what is causing you to abandon and give up on acheiving your dreams. Here are examples of inner fears that you may be facing.

Fear of Failure

It is natural to have some self doubts about whether you will succeed when you are starting a new venture in life. Starting a new job, starting a new relationship or moving to a new location all have elements of stress. Recognizing your inner fears starts by being objective about whether these fears are well founded or whether you are only imagining what might happen.

If you are starting a new business, yes, there are risks involved, and it is good to be objective about identifying them. If you don't believe you can succeed because you believe this sabataging inner voice, then you will end up spiraling downward. Positive self-belief is the most important way to combat the fear of failure. When engaging in a new venture or life-change, your real opponent is self-doubt. Don't let self-doubt validate your fear of failure.

Meeting Other People's Standards

Do you know how hard that is to do? In your mind--hopefully it's just in your mind and not communicated by well-wishing family and friends, you are never good enough. Recognizing your inner fears, often means identifying that we sometimes either set an unrealistic standard to attain, or set an artificial bar way higher than we need to. Remember that these are other people's standards. And who says that these other people are experts or that they are concerned about our best interests? It is often wise to get outside advice when starting a new venture, but it is also best to set your own standards and establish your own set of SMART goals. Establish goals that you are comfortable attaining and are not unrealistic and impossible to meet.

Comparison with Others

When you start recognizing your inner fears, often you find that your inner voice keeps whispering comparisons to others that may be hurtful or judgmental. Sometimes, you talk yourself into believing you just don't measure up!

Comparing yourself with others can become a diversion and a distraction that keeps you looking backwards rather than forwards toward the future. These distractions keep you from accomplishing what only you, with your unique talents, are able to accomplish. By recognizing your inner fears, you can begin to address what is holding you back. It takes determination and discipline to begin changing a negative inner voice into a positive inner voice. You are ready to see these fears as what they truly are, gremlins playing mind games in your head. They may make the world seem scary, but in the end, remember, it's in your head.

Finding An Inner Balance Between Self and the World You Inhabit

Recognizing your inner fears gives you an opportunity to change the outcome. Putting a name, or label, on your inner fear helps it become concrete and real. Something that you can deal with objectively. These fears are created in your mind? Is there any truth to them in reality? Only you can decide if the fear is a self-perpetuating myth that you have been embellishing in your mind.

If you identify your fears, you can understand how they keep you trapped in the past, how they maintain a high stress level in your life and keep you distracted from aligning your life with productive goals that you can achieve. Achievement ushers in self-confidence. Self-confidence is the opposite of self-doubt. Self-confidence brings with it a sense of inner peace. Inner peace can only be found when you have identified and banished your inner fears. Recognizing your inner fears is the first stage toward experiencing a fulfilling and purposeful life.