Teen Anger:
What's the Solution?
It is not surprising that many teens find themselves experiencing a large dose of teen anger. With all the many stressors that our teens face on a daily basis, it becomes difficult to balance all of their responsibilities and not feel overwhelmed. Sometimes, this feeling of stress can express itself as anger. Anger is the emotion that we all have experienced. Rarely are the results of an outburst beneficial. However, it’s important to be in control of this emotion rather than allowing it to control us. Choosing how we express our anger is called anger management.
There are many causes for teen anger such as experiencing a loss in an athletic competition, finding out that a much anticipated event was cancelled, performing poorly on an important academic test, or having an acne outbreak the day before a special event. Even the way friends behave can cause an outbreak of teen anger.
Anger is a very powerful emotion because it is fueled by a surge of adrenaline. And our teens, often feeling overwhelmed by the stressors of school studies, social activities, making decisions about post high school plans, and raging hormones, can have little energy left for managing anger self-control.
Although it is not unusual for teen anger outbreaks, there are ways parents can help teens modify their behavior.
• Ask your teen to identify what triggers the anger and why? Keep a written journal to become aware of the patterns and of the triggers.
• After an anger outbreak, have your teen size up the situation and consider what other alternative ways it could have been solved. Often teens unknowingly create stress in their routines because of poor time management. Has your teen budgeted enough time to complete assignments and meet responsibilities? Listing possible solutions will help for the next time that your teen encounters a similar situation.
• Talk about the best ways to handle anger in various situations that provide a beneficial outcome and create the least amount of damage. For example, if your teen stumbles over a chair, kicking the chair would only provide an opportunity to further hurt his foot. Moving the chair out of the way would be a more beneficial solution.
• Lastly, make certain that your teen has enough exercise to release some of the pent-up stress that accumulates in the physical body. This also allows for venting frustrations and emotions that can suddenly explode into a full-blown anger attack if not addressed.
Help For Parents With Strong-Willed,
Out-Of-Control Teens
1. How much longer will you tolerate dishonesty and disrespect?
2. How many more temper tantrums and arguments will you endure?
3. Have you wasted a lot of time and energy trying to make your child change?
Try this program by Mark Hutton that includes both a digital e-book and an accompanying online parent support program. The
Online Parent Support (OPS) is a program designed specifically for parents of strong-willed or out-of-control adolescent children. OPS provides the practical and emotional support parents need to change destructive adolescent behavior.
The straightforward, step-by-step action plans presented in the curriculum allow parents to take immediate steps toward preventing or intervening in their children’s negative choices. Parents involved with OPS have the opportunity to experience success at home within the first week.
OPS includes My Out-Of-Control Teen eBook (a digital book). In this book,Hutton shares over 150 proven techniques to use with your strong-willed, out-of-control teenager.
The curriculum teaches concrete prevention, identification, and intervention strategies for the most destructive of adolescent behaviors.
Try this Teen Anger Management System and experience a renewed sense of calm in your home.
Teen anger is a natural occurrence, but when things get out of control, situations can become difficult to handle and downright dangerous. With my teenage boys, we talk about managing anger when things are calm and we can reason together. We talk about what different anger management strategies best work for them before the strategies need to be applied. I have seen a few things thrown in anger, luckily nothing but a water bottle or shoe sailed through the air. But left unchecked, this lack of anger management control could have escalated and the fueled adrenaline emotion could have gotten the best of the situations. Teen anger management is a skill that needs to be practiced and refined so that it can be a signal but not a cause for additional disastrous outcomes.
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