Does life sometimes seem overwhelming and difficult for you to take control? Do you find people making an increasing amount of demands on your time and energy? If you are like me, you may find it difficult to maintain a sense of control and attend to the many different daily responsibilities.
Sometimes it's tough to maintain control of our life situations, especially when others are involved. So what can we control? we can control our thoughts and how we react to life around us. What we can’t control includes other people’s behaviors, what happens in the natural environment, or the passage of time. Let's look at how to take control of what we think and how to take control of our actions.
How is your self-esteem doing? Is that little voice inside your head whispering nasty things about you? Notice how you, like many other women, always seem to compare yourself to others and in many instances, fall short in comparison. It’s as though you are giving yourself a mental beating. It’s time to rid yourself of the mental gremlins.
You are the only one who can take control of what you are thinking. And that’s pretty darn important. It’s time to start being a friend to yourself. If you wouldn’t make those remarks floating around in your head to your best friend, why are you saying them to yourself?
Your responsibilities may include taking care of others—kids, elderly parents, other family members, students, friends, the list goes on. This may cause you to have strong emotional connections to your work and tasks at hand. You may question how well you are handling things and doubt your abilities. Notice when these thoughts start. Stop, and make an effort to focus on other more positive thoughts. Positive self belief is necessary for your healthy well being. You need to matter to others, but it begins with you mattering to you.
Queen of Your Own Life: The Grown-Up Woman's Guide to Claiming Happiness and Getting the Life You Deserve
You’re busy. We all are. So when you have put in a full day of work and then have to start taxiing the kids to their activities and doctor’s appointments, it can become overly demanding. You get frustrated with traffic, upset with time delays, and you start taking out your frustrations on anyone around. Sound familiar?
Next step? Re-assess your schedule so you can find ways to manage these demands. When you find that you have more responsibilities than you can single-handedly manage, you have three options. You can:
It may not be easy, to drop stuff, but be ruthless for your own health and sanity. Keep what is important and drop the responsibilities that you can. Simplifying life helps you enjoy those things that matter and lessen the feeling of being overwhelmed.
My Answer is No . . . If That's Okay with You: How Women Can Say No with Confidence
Women seem to have difficulty saying, "no." We’re hard-wired to help. Did you ever consider that saying “no” to something actually allows you to say “yes” to something else? It’s a way of setting priorities. Here is a great resource for women to learn effective ways of saying "no." In My Answer is No . . . If That's Okay with You. Nanette Gartrell provides practice tips to establish healthy boundaries in life situations. You know how much added responsibilities you can handle and when you are overloaded. Say “no” and mean it.
Here at SM4W, we provide lots of advice about stress management to keep you healthy, positive and productive. You have a purpose here on earth and you are not going to find the best use of your talents and abilities if you are too stressed to accomplish anything. Slow down and notice the world around you. Make some priorities for yourself and take control. Carpe Diem.
"We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed." (Corinthians 4:8-9)